Love Authentically

Recently in a conversation with a friend we found ourselves discussing the matter of hearts. She shared a  thought about giving her heart to someone. She gave this someone a glass heart and when he broke it she carefully glued the pieces together to create an intricately beautiful heart. I was her heart... only better? That was my thought. Was it better because of being pieced back together creating change in perspective? Well in fact it was a beautiful analogy and it was a useful tool for her to handle the rocky road of relationships. My comment was that I was happy that my heart was made of flesh and muscle and bounced when it was dropped. I mean what are you thinking giving a man a heart made of glass. Are you bent on setting him up for failure? Have you not observed how men are always fumbling things from footballs, baseballs, and they can never keep their hands on tools without dropping them. So why in heaven's name would you choose to give them a heart made of glass, you have heard the analogy of the bull in the china closet. And women... I have only three words for you...PMS. After a good laugh we began to playfully push and pull this topic around but the more we did so I recognized that this was a fantastic topic for coaching clients learning how to accept being truely authentic in their relationships.

If you are truely interested in creating successful relationships it would be a good idea to begin by setting your love interest up for success in place of failure. Offer him/her your real heart, your authentic self. This heart was made to be strong and durable and the more it is exercised by freely making your unconditional love available the stronger and more resiliant to damage it becomes. The real thing bounces when dropped and when you apply the three second rule, just pick it up and brush it off, it is as good as new. When using this as a tool in approaching your relationships your consiousness shifts from a space of fear to a space of love. What  possibilities could there be for your relationships if you created an opportunity for real success by being really authentic and replacing your fear of "heart break" with unconditional love?